It's two for one!
First, She was a Step-Mother
Meghan is also a stepmother to four children from her husband’s previous relationships. In the past, some of her co-stars — specifically Tamra Judge and Vicki Gunvalson — said that her role in the blended family was not the same as being a biological mother. The comment obviously stung Meghan, who had had no children of her own at the time.
“It’s different when they’re yours,” Vicki said on Season 10.
“She’s acting like she’s a mother to Jim’s four children, and she’s not. She’s a brand new married step-mom, and she needs to know her place,” Vicki continued to shame Meghan in her private interview.
“I feel like Meghan’s behavior is definitely disrespectful to moms,” she added.
“You’ve never been a stepmom,” Meghan pointed out to the pair, who were obviously on the attack.
“We’re talking about bearing your own child and having your own child,” Vicki continued to press the issue. “Not Jimmy and his wives’ children.”
Meghan began crying during the conversation, which was meet by complete confusion from her apparently oblivious castmates.
“It’s really hard,” she said when they asked why she cried over their comments. “The only love I know is my step-children as my children. I want to have my own biological child, but the love I have for them is so deep.”
“I’m constantly reminded that I don’t have biological children. I wish I was their mom,” she continued through the tears.
“Bending Over Is A Thing Of the Past.”
Right before giving birth, she told People that she had been “getting miserable,” as any 33-week pregnant women may be prone to feeling, especially one with twins.
“I feel like the babies are like, in my ears. And most definitely in my lungs. I am really struggling with breathing. You can really tell in my Instagram Stories. I’ll listen to them back and I’m breathing so heavily just doing nothing,” she said.
“Plus, I can’t feel my legs. And bending over is, like, a thing in the past,” the expectant mother added about her physical state of being, which was primarily stationary near the end of her pregnancy.
“I’m so ridiculously pregnant, I can hardly move off the couch,” she continued. “We just had a cleaning lady come today — I don’t even know how she did, because I’m too tired to look. That’s where I’m at.”
With 1-year-old Aspen up and moving, it made the whole process even more difficult.
“I have a nanny and she’s been so good — and Jimmy’s been so helpful too — but waking up with Aspen in the morning, that’s even hard,” the 33-year-old said about her daughter. “I can get her out of the crib and stuff, but going up and down my stairs is tough.”
She added that there are also emotional difficulties with being pregnant while having such a young child around the house.
“I want her to be able to have fun and go to the park, but I can’t walk around the park anymore,” Meghan said. “It makes me sad. It’s a hard place to be.”
Her IVF Journey
Meghan was very honest about going through in-vitro fertilization to become pregnant with her first daughter, Aspen. When she revealed she wanted to try bot Baby No. 2, there was admittedly a lot of hesitation from her family.
“This was a difficult decision for us,” she said in her original post announcing that Aspen would become a big sister.
“Opposite of my first experience with IVF, this time I was anxious for the emotional toll while knowing I could handle the physical repercussions. Additionally, I had reliable companionship this time around with Jimmy by my side, my trusty furry companion Girly Girl and of course, baby Aspen,” she wrote.
“If you remember from RHOC, during my first round of IVF I entered the worst depression of my life, probably due to the erratic hormones combined with loneliness,” she continued, before going on to say that with a better schedule and a greater understanding of what to expect, it was much easier this time.
“We began the IVF process after baseball season ended so Jimmy could be ever present – it was so dumb of us to do round 1 of IVF in April at the height of spring training. We were so anti-overlapping-IVF-and-baseball that we even had to shift our original schedule due to The St. Louis Cardinals’ schedule!” she penned.
“I felt like I handled this IVF much more in stride. I’m not sure if it’s because I knew what to expect or if maybe my body was used to the hormones, but it was easier,” she continued.